It seems that nowadays being busy comes with a superstar status.
Lately, I’ve had the impression that, for some people, constantly telling others how busy they are brings a sense of achievement, making them feel successful and in-demand – rather than communicating the actual time-starvation.
I’ve been there too, for many years, constantly filling my schedule with extra projects, random drinks and dinners out. The absence of weekend plans felt like a failure – a suspicion of unpopularity and worthlessness.
Now that I’ve learned to genuinely love my empty evenings, I finally see that my busyness was an involuntary yet direct consequence of my ambition and anxiety, rather than purposeful activities.
From managing work to mending friendships, I was wasting time and energy on things that, quite frankly, were making me unhappy. I felt drained, out of control, overwhelmed by the endless to-do lists.
In a world where everyone is “Busy!” “So busy.” “Crazy busy.”, promptly followed by “Super tired.” and “Exhausted”, I refuse to complain and choose to consciously create a different, slower way.
It’s not always easy, since I still work in a fast-paced environment where talking about how busy you are seems to be the secret to success; where being overloaded and unavailable is the right way to go.
For years, I’ve tried to play by those rules – only to end up feeling physically and creatively burn out. I was overpowered by my obligations and, most importantly, my own expectations of how my life should look like.
Now, there’s a new way of being I strive to embody. I’ve learned to prioritise my needs and goals, which (surprise, surprise) don’t involve expensive cocktails or meaningless chit-chats. I’m also challenging myself to complain less – but that’s a story for another post.
Above all, I’m determined to respect my boundaries and honour my values, which don’t include prestige and promotion, but focus on freedom, relationships, health and happiness.
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