“Courage is the first of human virtues because it makes all others possible.”
Everyone is afraid of something. From heights to spiders, planes to elevators, we all struggle with fears and anxiety caused by circumstanced beyond our control.
The first and natural reaction is to avoid objects or situation that elicit the feelings of stress and discomfort. This creates a false sense of safety in an attempt to reduce tension and regain control. Understandable, but inefficient. Why?
Avoidance guarantees that the feared object or situation remain novel. It also leads to a sense of failure that tends to generalise over time. Finally, avoidance eliminates practice. The longer we delay doing something we fear, the larger the first step in facing it will become.
Inversely, it is through practice that empowerment and accomplishment arise. Confronting our fear instead of backing down is, in fact, the only antidote to anxiety. It helps develop skills and mastery, thus decreasing the chance of failure.
If we dread talking in class, we will need to start talking in class. If we’re afraid of depths, we’ll have to jump right in. This is not easy to do, since confronting our fear will produce a lot of initial anxiety. However, living in the prison of avoidance is way worse.
So, how can we train our minds to act more courageously in everyday life?
- Identify Your Fears
Understanding the cause is essential for overcoming it.
- Practice And Patience
When it comes to fear the only way out is through.
- Form Positive Patterns
If you pay attention to the darkness, you will never find the light.