Over the last few years, a lot of things happened. I changed jobs, got fired, moved to a different country, bought a house, got dumped, started dating again and, most recently, found out about some health issues. The list could go on, but the point is pretty clear – changes occur, whether we like it or not.
The true strength lies in getting back up and starting all over again, time after time. It’s about assessing the damage and moving forward, against all odds. It’s about adjusting the direction, when we recognise that things aren’t working out the way they were meant to.
The funny thing is, we can handle way more than we think. I would have never thought I’d get to the point where I am today. By all means, it has been far from easy. I’ve had my moments of doubt and despair, but always did my best to regroup and keep moving forward.
While hard times clearly don’t feel good, they are important tools for growth and learning. It’s through trials and tribulations that we build resilience.
At its core, resilience is about being capable and strong enough to persevere in adverse or stressful conditions and finding a positive meaning in that experience. It’s about learning to shift our perceptions and change our responses – a painful process that eventaully leads to growth.
Despite out best efforts, transformation takes plenty of patience and perseverance. We’re a constant work in progress. It’s not always easy, comfortable and fun. We have to fight back against our old patterns, time after time.
Real progress comes when we take full responsibility for our lives, rather than desperately trying to avoid pain and fear. Sometimes, it feels confusing, exhausting and scary. Other times, it feels empowering, exhilarating and energizing. It’s little moments like that that are worth fighting for.